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Auj Lazaro is a blogger since 2004, she is said to write best with a cup of coffee and a few cigarette sticks at hand. Auj is not always what she seems to be.@aujanlazaro
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For daughters like me who have always viewed moms to be stronger than the dads, the celebration of Father’s Day 2012 is a bit awkward. It seems to be always just another normal day when you know you have completely managed to go on with the daily struggles in life without the father being always in the picture.
I am not being bitter about it, believe me. I feel happy for those who truly have enough reason to observe father’s day by going to his favorite restaurant or traveling out of town with the entire family. It’s just not the same as for those like me who do not consider the ‘father’ as a favorite person in our lives.
How do we move on though? Here are several tips I got from an article written by Momma Sunshine blogger at the Parent Society site who talks about coping with father’s day even if you are a single mom who hates the ex-hubby and the father of your kids.
1. It’s not about you.
I don’t care if you’re the #1 mom on the planet and your ex husband is the biggest jerk in existence. If there is one day a year when you need to turn a blind eye to the train wreck that was your marriage, then this is it.
2. Everyone deserves their own day.
Yeah, yeah, yeah I know … he spent all of 30 seconds helping the kids pick out a Mother’s Day card for you, and you’re supposed to care that he gets recognition for being the sperm donor that helped you bring your wonderful children into existence? Well, ladies, this is one of those times when then old adage “do unto others as you would have them do unto you” needs to be put into practice.
3. It’s not just about him — it’s about your children, too.
Chances are, your kids think that their dad is a pretty cool guy, even if he’s not in the picture all the time, or not always in the running for Father of the Year. Kids (especially young kids) have this hero-worship thing going on when it comes to their parents.
4. Let your kids take the lead.
Listen, I truly understand how difficult it can be to watch your kids get excited about a day celebrating a person that you’re in conflict with. I’m not trying to say that you should be front and center helping your kids plan an elaborate Father’s Day celebration for the man that broke your heart and ruined your life (and maybe is still causing you an inordinate amount of grief.)
I cannot think of any father’s day gifts to possibly extend to my own dad but probably just a simple yet from the heart happy father’s day greeting. There aren’t any father daughter dance songs I can hear at the back of my mind that would fit our admittedly ‘awkward’ relationship. I just feel grateful that I do not have just one father to greet but two more.
Happy father’s day Papu. Happy father’s day Mamu. Happy father’s day my Abba Father in heaven.
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